The Disconnection (Teaser)…

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There is a new ailment plaguing our modern world, which spreads more and more to our younger generations, for the moment they come into this world, they are subjected to two completely different realities. On the one hand, there is the so-called “real” world, which basically is everyday life; here people meet each other, work, and function normally. On the other hand, there is the virtual reality brought to us by the marvellous world of the internet, in which we can delve into, whether we have a productive purpose or are only looking to waste some time. The distinction between the two worlds is, or at least can be seen as, a very common one, namely that between the body and the mind. We live in a physical reality, in which we use our physical bodies to navigate and interact, while the reality of the internet is one that has to do mainly with our heads, what we see, what we focus on, and so on. Our physical body only serves as an intermediary connection for us to be able to access this virtual reality.

Being a student, working a lot on the computer, or even just spending a lot of time on the internet causes our mind to kinda lose itself in that world, disconnecting us, so to say, from the physical reality surrounding us. This disconnection is not frequently apparent , for we usually have access to the internet in order to escape the real world, so we don’t have the time to realize that we are indeed disconnected. Yet, as life will have it, sometimes circumstances make it such that we are thrown out of the virtual world without easy access to it, which may leave us feeling lost and alone. Being always lost in it, we don’t notice the effects it has on us, but when we are cut from it, there is the danger of falling into internet-withdrawal, which is a feeling of disconnection.

This disconnection is simply portrayed as not feeling that anything matters, while boredom takes one over, while simultaneously taking away the envy to do anything. Time just flies so fast in the internet, that everything suddenly seems too long, and even a weekend may look like an eternity. This effect of disconnection is even worse when it happens during one’s routine life, because then there might not be any novelty to take one’s mind off of it. There are ways to ground oneself when disconnection occurs, which might help against this bad state of mind. But grounding oneself is not always an easy feat, for the issue of disconnection is a profound one. Since this was just a teaser, I’ll stop here, and develop the disconnection some more later on.

Until next time,

Luca

 

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Needle in the Wall…

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Did you ever sit behind a door and wonder what was going on behind it?? Trying to guess, never quite making it out, always uncertain, until you go check it out….but by then, it’s already long gone. If you’re lucky, you might be able to deduce what happened afterwards, but it is not always the case, leaving the sound a mystery for the ages. As dramatic as that sounds, it is also the beauty of it. Ah, the puzzling unknown, how we could marvel at it forever…and indeed we do quite frequently, for this is how we learn the best. Yet, we can still never know, for once we do, it is not unknown, the truth having stolen away the endless possibilities of the unknown. But can we ever really know?? That is another question which may stick around for a while, so I won’t try to answer it here. One thing remains though, we cannot know the unknown, for once we do, it is now known, and therefore not unknown.

This is also why superstitions are so marvellous, and laughable at the same time. We can never fully know if they are actually the case, but at the same time we could never dismiss them completely. The occult always had a powerful place in human evolution, even now we still dream of being superheroes or being able to use magic. Is there perhaps some kind of universal energy we could tap in and shape as we please?? Or maybe some benevolent and omnipotent entity which could help us from time to time?? Just as when we believe we may know what was actually going on behind the door, we can never fully be certain, so much of that belief is based on faith. Big parts of our lives are based on faith though, e.g. we have faith in our government, we have faith in the doctors’ diagnosis, we have faith in money, we sometimes even have faith in the future. But insofar as we know, everything could potentially be a lie, yet we like to believe the contrary. Nevertheless, in order for faith to be present, the unknown must also be there. Such delight…

The unknown opens a wide net of possibilities, leaving us dreaming about whichever could be true, but without ever actually knowing. As a small anecdote, I used to live in an apartment where the was a 10cm needle sticking in the living room wall when we moved in. It looked like a sewing needle, albeit a very long one, and was clearly not deep enough to support any kind of picture on the wall. So we wondered, the most popular theory being that it was supporting the whole building, and pulling it out would making it collapse. Or that a rip in the fabric of the universe could happen and we would get sucked in. Seriously, who puts a giant needle in their wall?? As we moved out one year after, the needle was still in the wall, and so the mystery remains.

Until next time,

Luca

The Connection…

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It’s strange when you think about it, this connection we create with others. I mean, other than our family (and even then sometimes), we are not “forced” to get close to anyone walking around, we could spend our whole life not creating any connections and well…no one would care. Except ourselves, of course, since we are always with us. That doesn’t seem like a very interesting life though, not talking to anyone, not making new friends or finding a lover, nothing like that, just ourselves in our head. But a situation like that occurring for a long period of time is rather unlikely, because interactions just jump at you on every street corner, or in every store/place you go to.

But then, what leads us to have certain connections with certain people?? Yeah, just talking to someone is not a very hard thing to do, and it happens quite often, but only rarely leads to something more developed, a friendship for example, or an intimate encounter. So what is this connection we create anyways?? I must admit, I do not know what it could be, or how it appears. Sometimes friendships just spring up because you have to spend a lot of time somewhere, and you just happened to talk to someone, and talk with them again once you meet the time after. That’s how it is in classrooms. How then do you continue from there, to form a stronger connection, moving from simply being acquaintances to being friends??

The beauty of our friends, is that we can choose them…but do we really?? Sometimes the universe simply unfolds in a way to bring certain people around, and we are just the agents being smart enough to hook on to those people, creating our own little world as a group. But this leads us to discussing groups, which will have to wait for another time. To come back to the idea of connection, it just seems like a really strange phenomenon, which people experience in their everyday lives, but isn’t always as easy to understand as you might believe. Having connections with others leads to a whole new set of problems, but at the same time, not having any is extremely detrimental to someone’s well-being. So connections are simply invisible strings, holding us together with the people we’re most comfortable with, bringing with them a whole paraphernalia of unexpected pleasures and pains.

Until next time,

Luca

 

Why Bubbles Matter…

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Even though they may be as ephemeral as drawings in the sand, we still love those fleeting moments where we get to escape the anguish of reality. We all have our own way; some like dancing, some like drinking, some like reading, or simply being with friends. These are the moments where nothing else matters, than what is happening right now. Just like traveling, they keep us focused on the present, rather than getting lost in the past or the future, because there is always something going on.

Bubbles matter because they allow us to escape the dread of routine, giving us something to look forward to, something new or special. Which is also why it is important to not incorporate them into said routine, for fear of having them become usual, something we get used to, which makes them lose their magic. Bubbles are inherently fragile and fleeting, which is also why they are so precious.

It is of no importance that we know they won’t last forever, quite the opposite, it is crucial for them to remain special, so we get to appreciate them fully. Occasionally, those bubbles can turn sour, but that is only a matter of perception, for we are ultimately in total control of whether we want to remember only the good things that happened during those few precious moments, or keep focusing on what could have happened, or what is not happening.

Another marvellous part of those bubbles is that no matter what actually happens, in the end, it does not matter, because we will still go back to the same reality we tried to escape for a little while, so might as well leave with a smile once the bubble bursts, so that we don’t ruin the momentary escape. Blow bubbles and keep them magical, it provides an amazing relief from everyday life. Make it an adventure, and enjoy it fully.

Until next time,

Luca

 

Life and Reality (Part 3): Work

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This last post in the series Life and Reality (at least for now 😉 ) will take on the subject of our role in what we have defined as “reality” in my last post. More precisely, it will be about our role in the social reality we live in, and how our personal reality might come and clash with it at times. So what’s more important: what we want to do with our lives, or what society requires us to do??

So first of all, what are the possibilities we have when it comes to our own life, or rather, to the aim we have in life?? The two main categories under which various answers could come up are possibilities coming from outside of us, and possibilities arising from within us. The first category incorporates everything that dictates to us what we do from an outside perspective, for example the plans our parents have for us, or the role society wants us to take on. I admit that both examples are very broad, since any of those could “impose” a multitude of chosen paths on us, but the main point still remains that we do not have a say in it, that it is simply what we “have” to do. Our parents may have certain plans for us, like to continue their legacy, or to take on a job that will be (usually) monetarily rewarding, and socially acceptable. This is just to say that it is a restriction put on us that is closer to home than saying society imposes it on us, but it all boils down to what the outside world tells us we “should” be doing. Society, in this case, simply represents the cultural norms associated with our life direction, and so I must admit that I am biased (like all of us are) by the fact that I grew up in the so-called “Western Society”.

The cultural norms most frequently associated with a direction in life is that we should accomplish x number of steps in our academic life, in order then to have a well-paying job, out of which we will be able to make a career to which we will stick our whole lives. Surprisingly, this ideal norm contains various problems, the first of which is to even figure out what one should do for his/her whole life. This also seems to imply a rather static way of life, for one can hardly build a career while traveling the world frequently, unless that person is lucky enough to have a job that requires them to do so. This also means that one will most likely spend his/her whole life under the authority of some kind of boss or supervisor, which once again, seems to rather limit the freedom one may possess. This is not to say that all supervising is bad, because there always needs to be a leader for any project to work, even if it is simply to get all the participants organized. Also, what if I don’t want to define my life vis-a-vis the job I am doing?? Is what I do for money really defining me as a person?? I believe that there is always more to us than what I do to sustain myself, since we cannot avoid the necessity of money, hence what we do to obtain it does not define us wholly. So yeah, it would seem that choices imposed on us from the outside will not only be unsatisfactory (since they don’t always coincide with what we actually wanted) but also makes us feel powerless when it comes to the choices we can make for ourselves.

Jobs are not everything. They might come and go, but no matter what, we will be stuck with ourselves for as long as we are alive. Which is why I argue that we should break the cultural norm of the necessity of working for our whole lives, simply for the sake of making the machine run, or because we “ought” to do so. Yes, we do need money in order to sustain ourselves (sadly), but in an ever-evolving world, there are always new ways to make a living, which would not necessarily require us to sell our souls for the benefit of one profit-hungry corporation. We should be the first and foremost priority for ourselves, and this is why we should not devote our lives to “working for the sake of working” because we might miss out on experiences which make us being sentient creatures worth it.

To conclude, the only viable option for when it comes to working, is simply to do what we really enjoy, even though we might have to do some tasks which are less pleasant in order to achieve that goal, but the important part is that we choose what it is we do. We are in control of our own lives, and money is not worth selling your soul to a greedy boss, because the misery brought to you by a certain job will never compensate the years you have lost earning that money. We are born free, and so we shall live, not waiting until we are old enough to retire to finally enjoy life. Life is now, not when we are older, because we may never know what can happen until then. Enjoy it while it lasts!!

Until next time,

Luca