Me, Myself, and Others…

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Today, I would like to discuss a very important topic…me!! This may seem quite self-absorbed, but by this I do not mean that I will spend this whole post discussing various aspects of my personal life, but rather the “me” each and everyone of us possesses, and is aware of to some degree or another. Indeed, we are all ourselves (very few people would try to argue against that point), yet not everyone of us knows their own self very well, perhaps because they never thought of exploring themselves, or most likely, since they are afraid of what they may find once they start digging within themselves. This happens because we spend years and years shovelling darkness, doubts, and dislikes over our golden core, making it ever harder to get to know the person we are deep down inside. If we let it accumulate, the task becomes ever bigger, maybe even getting to a point where we find it insurmountable, which only leads to more despair, so we simply push it under the carpet and hope we can forget about it. Which couldn’t possibly be a good idea, since it is physically, psychologically, mentally, emotionally impossible to run away from oneself for ever. We might keep repressing it, covering it up with drugs, distractions, work, friends, or any other escape we may find, but in the end, we will still wake up with ourselves no matter what route we choose. Yet, this begs the following question: Why do we even do this to ourselves??

The answer to that is that the path to self-discovery is a harsh one, filled with pain, emotional distress, loneliness, and insecurities. Getting to know oneself is not all about finding all the parts of ourselves we like (though it still plays a key role), but also of facing all the demons we would rather avoid. The darkness within us is an intrinsic part of what the “self” is, because no single human being, rather no single living being, or even nothing that ever existed and ever will, has the quality of being perfect, so might as well learn to embrace the imperfections, because they are a part of who we are just like all the good aspects of ourselves are. So it would seem that no matter the amount of shit we pilled over our golden core (a.k.a. the self), the path of self-awareness begins with the acceptance that we cannot, nor ever will be, perfect. Who wants to be perfect anyways?? Perfection seems rather boring to me, since it would mean that we do not have any means of improving anymore…but enough of this discussion of perfection, perhaps it shall be developed another time. Once again, this leads to the following question: What is the point of going through this arduous path, and “getting to know” ourselves, if all it’ll bring is pain and misery??

Well, the answer is that it will do way more than that. The whole idea behind self-awareness is that it is about more than just getting rid of the dirt, and discovering our good and bad sides, but also about how we act in our everyday life. Knowing what our limits are, what we actually like/dislike, what we are ready to do or not, what our values are, and why we have certain thought patterns will help us interact with the rest of the world. Indeed, by knowing myself better, I can love myself more, which leads me to be able to love others for their own sake, thus allowing me to get to know others on a deeper level than simply what they do with their time, what music they like, and what their favourite colour is. Knowing ourselves truly makes it possible to connect with others on this deeper level, and hence really getting to know who their “self” is. Why would this matter, you may ask?? Because once you can know people on that more profound level, the words they use will only seem superficial, which will prevent them being able to fool us about what kind of person they actually are. By knowing ourselves better, we will be able to know others better, therefore making it easier for us to decide who we should keep in our hearts, and who will only bring us down or inject unwanted negativity within our lives. Getting to know oneself allows us to be at peace with ourselves, getting closer to others in the process, and making us realize what truly matters to us. And this to me, seems like a big component of this happiness we all try to achieve.

Until next time,

Luca

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Genitalia and Gender Stereotypes…

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It is interesting to notice that we can see quite the correlation between the roles our genitals play during sexual intercourse, and the gender stereotypes associated with the holders of those genitals. Which one came first is hard to determine, because I am not personally familiar with the mating habits of our oldest ancestors, or the power plays happening between the various genders of cavewo-/man. So without further ado, let us begin with the penis.

The function of a penis is quite straightforward, and even starts with the same three letters as penis, namely penetrate. The role of a penis during sexual intercourse is to enter a certain orifice (most commonly the vagina, but others may be used as well), which can also be seen as imposing its presence in foreign territory. This imposition can be directly linked with the role that men usually have to endorse, i.e. to take control of the situation, be strong-willed, and not afraid to “impose” their desire onto the more passive women. I put impose in quotation marks because it is actually too strong a word for what I mean, since it SHOULD NEVER BE IMPOSED, but rather welcomed inside the orifice. Yet, it nonetheless remains that the penis plays around in somebody else’s business. Men are supposed to do the same, picking up women for their own pleasure, because if you don’t get it in, then you’re not a real man. Which is completely false and outdated, for masculinity has nothing to do with shoving your dick into someone, but perhaps about how one acts, and even then…though this is a discussion for another time. Also, when it comes to the orgasm, just as when it comes to the process before intercourse, when it comes to men, it is all about the ending. Yes, intercourse itself will be pleasurable, but the biggest high comes from the ejaculation, not the process itself.

To continue with the vagina, its role is the complete opposite of the penis’, i.e. to receive something foreign or external into it. Which is also why women are supposed to be more passive, almost begging for the dominance of the male to enter them, so that they don’t feel empty. The stereotypes associated most frequently with women is especially that, that they should passively wait for a man to choose them, and to let him stick his penis into her, after having bought her enough drinks that is. Does that not sound a little strange to you, that the women are receiving something inside of them, but that they should not be the ones going after what they want inside?? Well it does to me, and is obviously still an issue, with the always horrific number of rapes done to women. The woman gets penetrated physically, thus, she should also be penetrated psychologically, by the stronger male will. When it comes to the orgasm though, it is the exact opposite of the man’s, because a woman will feel ever-increasing pleasure throughout the act, and can be satisfied even without orgasm, which is definitely not the case for men.

Furthermore,  women have an added member to increase their pleasure during sexual intercourse, which is called the clitoris, and stands apart from the whole penetration act. It is so because the clitoris stays at the border, not entering into anything, nor getting entered, and is also the key to the immense pleasure women can receive during sex. Perhaps it was added there by mother nature to make up for the pains of childbirth?? Or perhaps it is simply there to show women which men actually care or not, for if a man does not play with the clitoris, and only focuses on the penetration, the whole act might not be as pleasurable for her, since he may not show an actual desire to please her.

Yes, this is all based on stereotypes (which HAVE to be changed), and has only been a quick overview of the topic which deserves a more profound analyses than I have done here, but this will have to do for now. So, boys and girls, no matter what genitals you possess, you do not have to abide by any predetermined role, so just be yourself, respect the person with whom you’re having sex, and most of all, make sure both (or more…) parties have fun!!

Until next time,

Luca

 

The Nail Polish Conundrum…

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Today I will take a look at a very frequent, yet always troublesome dilemma, namely the one between morality and utility. This conundrum arises when we are faced with a choice between giving up on some of our values, in order to gain some profit, or to stick with what we believe in, despite not making any physical gains. The sort of questions this rises are the following: Are my values for sale? Should a compromise be struck between me giving up some of my beliefs in order to gain this temporary profit? Should I refuse altogether? Should I simply ignore what I believe in because I’ll make some tangible gain out of it?

The problem, though, with these questions is that there is not one alternative which can be considered as having a better outcome than the others, as long as moral integrity is valued. But is it really more valuable than money?? One issue is that unlike money, it may be believed that one has to constantly act according to his/her values in order to be considered a virtuous person, whereas gains come and go. Is this reason enough to put the emphasis on moral beliefs, despite potential physical hardships??

Is exterior comfort or inner peace more beneficial?? The answer inevitably seems to be one I cannot answer by myself, for it is up to each of us to decide where we stand. The important part is simply to be aware of why we chose where we stand, empowering our position through proper justification, so that we can remain professional regardless of the colour of our nails!!

Until next time,

Luca

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N.B. Upon revision of this article, I have concluded that identity is not constructed through whether or not our nails are painted, nor through justifications. If we have a goal, momentary adaptations might be necessary, which do not compromise who we are as people. This is so once we are stable enough in ourselves to be able to play with it, for identity if deeper than personality; I am, not like this or that, but I am, simply. Thus, our appearance, though it is a reflection of ourselves, can serve to illustrate more than just one aspect of us. So play with it 😉

The Futility of the Meta World and why it matters…

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A widely overlooked aspect of our world is all that which concerns the Meta World, the world beyond (meta literally means after or beyond in greek) our everyday empirical evidence and observations. The Meta World on the contrary deals mainly with abstractions, for it is meant to push explanations further than just how they work, but also why they work like that. For example, meta-ethics is concerned with what it takes for a theory to be properly called a moral theory, more than what the various kinds of moral theories are, just like metaphysics is concerned with the underlying explanation of why the physical phenomena work together (if they do) the way they do.

Indeed, everything related to the Meta World deals exclusively with the abstract, for it is all theories and suppositions. Nothing tangible can ever come from it, since the purpose of its being is exactly to go beyond what we believe and come up with sensical explanation. So when it really boils down to it, the Meta World is made out of stories which are marvelously well tied together, so much so that we may even take them for accounts of the truth. Nevertheless, they are still stories, and thus may succomb to incoherence or falsehood at any time, given the large amount of variables in those story. It would be futile to hold too strongly onto any of those stories, since we can never know if they are true or not.

Yet, despite it being completely abstract and forever unknown to us, the Meta World still has the benefice of expanding our horizon of intellectual inquiery, beyond what we perceive through our senses. But its value lies precisely in this idea that we take whatever we pushed to the abstract back into our tangible world, our reality. If we do not do so, then all the information in the Meta World is wasted since it will forever float in the hidden abstractions of every one of us. It is this reciprocity which makes it matter, and it is only possible through the symmetrical giving and receiving of ideas. The abstract is most useful when made real.

Until next time,

Luca

 

Why Alcohol….

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Today’s topic is probably quite familiar to most of us, despite it entailing a deeper meaning that is usually ascribed to is. The topic is indeed, alcohol. Alcohol has be around for countless millennia, has deep roots in the history of most people having lived on our planet, and is even still today extravagantly popular amongst individuals of all ages. Young people seek the thrill behind it, not having been allowed to drink until 16, 18, or even 21, the legal age changing with cultures. Middle-aged people came to enjoy it, not using it for partying, just like the elderly, making it more a matter of refined taste.

Western society glorifies alcoholic beverages in most contexts, but especially when attending social events of any kind, even if this only means going to a bar on friday. The effects of alcohol are well known, ranging from a lowered inhibition, to a lack or motor-control, heading to increased violent behaviour or drowsiness. If the quantity of alcohol ingested is too high, the individual might throw up, clearing his system from it, though some people won’t have that natural reflex, and could very well die from alcohol poisoning. Yet, despite all these seemingly negative side effects, it is still one of the only psychoactive substances which can be legally acquired.

This begs the following question: why only alcohol?? There are numerous other psychoactive substances which do not possess the same kind of effects associated with, which may even be more pleasant, and less conducive to violence, like cannabis for example. Instead of making its users aggressive, it brings about a feeling of happiness and relaxation, and one cannot die from smoking or eating too much cannabis. The answer as to why we are only legally allowed to indulge in alcohol is perhaps that it dumbs its users down, making them forget all the pain, clouding their minds, in order to disable their “unorthodox” thinking. Another reason might simply be that the lowered inhibition is meant as a relief from everyday conformity, where we must behave in a certain way, allowing us to blame alcohol for the acts of our repressed passions. Maybe it is time to rethink our way of socializing and entertaining ourselves, while still entering another way to perceive the world around us.

Cheers,

Luca