Fake it ’til you make it…

Hello 🙂

There is one thing we do every night, which can tell us something very interesting about how our bodies and our psyche connect. This is sleep, or rather, pretending to sleep until we actually do enter the realm of dreams. Indeed, every night we fake our sleep and this somehow tells our bodies that we want to sleep, until at some point we just pass out, without much extra effort than keeping up the pretense. This could lead us to believe that whatever we do with our body might actually have an effect on our mind, showing that not only mind over body works, but that the opposite relationship is efficient as well.

If this is the case then, it would open the door to a wider range of possibilities, where we could use our body to influence our mind in a specific way for whatever reason we might desire. One area which might be of interest is the relation between body posture and self-confidence. In a very interesting TED talk, Amy Cuddy actually explains in details how taking up certain “power poses” helps to increase our self-esteem, especially in situations were we might feel nervous and could use the extra confidence boost, like interviews, dates, or any other stressful events.

The same also works with laughing, for example, since one can start to fake laugh, and keep going until eventually that person will really start laughing, even if they might not have wanted to. But even more than laughter, this could be applied to any area of the psyche or of one’s personality that one might to want to work one, like being outgoing (or learn to become more recluse), confident, change to a healthier diet, and any other habit or lifestyle change one could think of. The idea is simply to pretend to be something in order to keep working on that something, until it has become a part of us. By this I do not mean to pretend to be someone we are not, or to go against our true self for the sake of social acceptance but simply to keep working on ourselves, get up to prevent laziness from taking over, and smiling even when we don’t feel like it, so that we can trick ourselves into being happy, regardless of our state of mind.

Until next time,
Luca

 

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What is Love…

To you with love, 

Love is the biggest mystery,
It is also said to be the key,
To elevate us, to be free,
And as we bask in it, to be happy

Yet to feel it universally,
Or even very personally,
So that it touches us deeply,
Can be tediously tricky
Emotions come from within,
To express them is no sin,
Though how can we ever be certain,
That we are not hiding behind a curtain
What we truly are is hard to tell,
We have to decipher it, without a spell,
                    There are no guidelines, no recipes,
Towards the path that may bring us peace
We walk alone this twisted road,
Hoping it will lead us abode,
There are no signs, nor shining lights,
So we keep walking, through darkest nights

Progression must be made,
From stagnation be afraid,
For once we stall,
We lose it all
For either up or down,
Wearing sandals or a crown,
We must go forward,
Having something to reach toward
Otherwise we may lay on the ground,
And fall asleep, safe and sound,
Waking up is the hardest thing,
For we’ll have to face the pain within
So keep going, beautiful being,
Soon, the light you will be seeing,
With a giant smile across your face,
You will have finally found your place
You’ll be surrounded by a glow,
And time will be passing, oh so slow,
Every second an eternity,
So you can live it all, so merrily
Until then, stand up strong,
Make your way through the throng,
Help others when you can,
For thus it all began
We truly are connected,
And in your smile will be reflected,
The same emotions we all feel,
Together, making this world ideal

 

Yours truly, 
Luca
 
Credits:
The Path Less Traveled – pinkparis1233 (http://www.deviantart.com/art/The-Path-Less-Traveled-148928554)