So what is it we are really after while growing up?? Throughout our whole childhood, all we crave for, desire, and aspire to is to finally become an adult, to be responsible for our own decisions, to become master of our fate. Yet it doesn’t take very long once we cross over this line that all those desires vanish, and all we end up wanting again is to be children again, not having to worry about responsibilities or life-altering decisions. Once we become adults, there’s no turning back, and the load of work that comes with being grown-up is an ever increasing one which we would gladly get rid of. Yet this begs the question, what are we really looking for when wanting to grow up, and on the flip side, what is it that we would like to regain once we’re adults??
The answer to both those questions is the same: freedom. All that we ever aim for, whether consciously or not, is to be free. Free from choices, free from responsibilities, free to control our own lives, free to eat what we want, and so on. This freedom of control, being the masters of one’s own life is what is sought throughout the teenage years (childhood is usually unworried about growing up, being lucky enough to be mostly focused in the present), in order to break away from the oppression of parents so that one can take charge of him-/herself.
Yet this usually doesn’t last, since once one faces the real world, it doesn’t take long to be crushed by responsibilities, worries, money, bills, work, choices, you name it. Being an adult isn’t as glamourous and easy-going as is envisioned as a teenager, so the transition is usually accompanied by a shock, and a dear wish to come back which may maintain itself indefinitely. But why desire to come after finally reaching something that was wanted for so long?? The answer: freedom from worry. Being in control of one’s life brings an incredible amount of responsibilities with it, or at least that is what society seems to pressure us into. But the beauty of being an adult is that you are in control of your life. This means that it can be as worrisome or care-free as you make it!!
Until next time,