Depths of Interactions….

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Every time we meet someone new, it is a completely novel experience, for every person is different. Yet, despite the words being so disparate, there is still a certain depth which can be attribute to every conversation. What is meant by depth involves a few factors, such as ease of interaction, body language, topic(s) of discussion, and so on. It is interesting to observe that even though they evolve over time, whether willingly or not, conversations with certain people will remain at a certain depth forever, while others will skip what could be seen as the progressive steps of a relationship leading to deeper interactions.

The most famous of the various kinds of interactions is small talk. We are all very familiar with it, and perform it daily, maybe out of social necessity, or maybe because it is the easiest way to slightly interact with another. Small talk always remains superficial, and seems to be more dictated by societal norms of how the question and answer process has to go along. They usually start with the traditional “Hey, you!”, followed by greeting from the other person, which then asks how the first person is doing. The most frequent answer is then “good, how about you?” or any variations, and the good will be repeated by the first person again. Even if they were lying about actually feeling well, it is of no importance, because neither of them actually cares that much, and would usually prefer not to be bothered by a rant or some complaining. After this, the conversation will either break up, and keep going, but feeling forced from both sides. Occasionally, small talk will evolve to become more personal, but only if both individuals put the effort into it.

On the opposite side of the spectrum, there is a very rare instance of interaction which does not follow the progression of depth, because right from the beginning it is already very personal and familiar. There are always some people which we may meet and with whom conversations comes like a second nature, where the looks, the touches, the words, all of it feels like it has happened before, like we had known this person forever. This is a terribly interesting subject of exploration, for we can never be sure exactly of why it happens this way. Perhaps our souls knew each other in another life, perhaps we share certain similarities with the other person, or perhaps it is simply a coincidence. Yet even when facing the unknown, this depth of interaction is the most profound, for it transcends words, and reaches right to the inner core of both participants. Since we have no power over its occurrence, all we can do is bask in it while it happens, and enjoy the trip within ourselves, through the other.

Until next time,

Luca

 

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Hugs are the best…

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Hugs are the best. Plain and simple. That’s not only because they’re truly amazing, that they feel nice, and that they’re comforting, but simply because they allow us to be truly ourselves with another person. And I’m not talking about greeting hugs that last only a few seconds, but long held tight hugs, the ones that last up to a few minutes, where all that is done by the two huggers is squeezing and back rubbing.

Indeed, this marvellous experience allows us to drop all the masks one can imagine, because there’s nothing else, no words, no looks, only the feeling, so it is hard to pretend to be someone else while hugging another person. Furthermore, longer hugs release Oxytocin in one’s brain (1), which is one of the chemicals associated with social bonding and deeper connections, which is why one of the nicknames for oxytocin is the cuddle hormone, amongst others, since it also has a variety of other effects.

The benefits from hugging do not only come when being done with a person close to us, but can also be activated with a total stranger, since it does not matter who the other person is, energy will still circulate between the two hugging entities. All this to say that “one hug a day, keeps loneliness away”, at least for as long as the oxytocin high lasts. Big hug to all of you!!

Until next time,

Luca

1. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/27/health-benefits-of-huggin_n_5008616.html

At least you tried…

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          There has always been this ineffable divide between thinking about doing something, and actually doing it. Considering a certain action is easy, because all it requires is to think about it, imagine the possible outcomes, and hope things work out that way. Yet this does not allow the action itself to be actualized, for it is only reflected upon, and thus still remains within the confines of our minds. The separation occurring between the thought and the action is not an simple one to overcome, since they have to do with two completely different realms, the first being the comfort of our own imagination, while the latter happens in the real world, and has usually to do with others.
          As usual, the moment other individuals are taken into consideration, there will be a part of unknowable mystery surrounding the action, for we are forever cut off from the thoughts of those other people. This makes it slightly difficult to interpret their intentions and desires, and especially the way we should act (or not) towards them. A clear example of this complication is possible romantic or sexual interest. How can one know whether or not another person is interested in them or if they are being creeped out by your show of interest?? Body language goes a long way to help evaluate the situation, and so does the spoken language, but one can never actually figure it out without trying (to be understood as asking in this case).
          This may, of course, lead to the possibility of trying too much, which may then lead to awkward and uncomfortable feelings, and even to rejection, which may be hurtful, but will inevitably happen at some point. The secret simply seems to be to try anyways, and actually do the action instead of simply thinking about it. Acting on one’s desires removes this unknown, and prevents the over-thinking of the mind, which always leads to doubt. The same applies to other areas of one’s life, and not just the romantic or sexual aspects of interpersonal relationships. The gap between thinking and doing can solely be crossed by trying, for only then can we make the unknown known.
 Even though you never know
Just take a chance and let it flow
Until next time,
Luca

Row, Row, Row My Boat, Gently Down The Sea…

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Unaware, we embark on a journey throughout the world around us, we navigate within it, our lonely self floating around in this sea of life. We start off at first, leaving the safety of the port where we have been built, in order to discover what else exist. On the way we pick up various skills and abilities that allow us to sail longer and further, to read the winds better, and to follow the current, or to fight it. Accidents happen, mistakes are made, and so our boat gets hurt, a little here, a little there, losing a big chunk after being tempted by the entrancing song of the mermaids. The more we go, and the more pieces we lose, unless we keep patching them back up, and perhaps even improving our boat along the way, learning from the lessons we have been taught to create a true vessel out of the little wooden boat we started off with. And so we keep on sailing, on and on, to new horizons, or perhaps staying forever in the same seas, crossing other boats, simply floating around, until one day we get to our final destination, the one from which there is no coming back. It is an inevitable part of any journey that it must one day end, just as it has begun on a day like any other. Neither of those days are especially remarkable, nor are any in between, though the navigation can be pretty amazing for the boat, if it so perceives it.

 

While facing the tempests, the storms, and the dangers around, it can be easy to give up on the exploration, and spend the whole trip in a part of the sea we have already explored, perhaps near a warm beach, surrounded by lush vegetation, and a gorgeous sun. Comfort sets in, and the need to explore dims, the holes only slightly getting patched up, just so it can keep floating, the anchor laying in the bottom of the sea. The more the comfort sets in, the more convinced we are those patches will hold, and the more appealing the nest becomes, slowly forgetting that there is a whole world to explore past the confines of our little tropical paradise. Hidden from the dangers, we live in our illusions, excitement is not needed anymore, nor are others, for all we have is all we need, and so it shall remain until the wood rots off and we seek deep into the sea, remaining at the bottom with the fishes, never feeling the gentle caress of the wind blowing through our sails.

 

 

But boats are not meant to be stable, to remain in a port. They must go forth and brave the winds, not flinching before the storms, and driving always further into the unexplored realms lying ahead. Laziness overcomes the ones without direction, without a purpose, and comfort takes over the motivation to break free from it. A boat can follow the direction of the wind, but only once it lets itself ride on the currents, yet the winds are truly at their best if the boat desires to go into that direction, for it has a purpose of its own. It is not meant to turn in circles, and it must patch up and repair the damages it has occurred, so it can remain strong, and face the dangers ahead, in the chance of one day finding what it has been looking for. There are countless paths to be taken, numerous detours to be explored, and a universe of possibilities to be engendered, and the only way to have but a glimpse of all there is out there is to keep going, following our compass, and trusting the winds to blow us where we need to be.

And all this merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream…

Until next time,
Luca

Bon Apétit…

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There is a very famous saying that goes as follows: We are what we eat. This saying couldn’t be any closer to the truth, even though it is often (jokingly) associated with us being pigs, cows, or chicken if we eat meat. Or that we should convert to cannibalism in order to remain human. Obviously none of these options are actually being applied to our realities, nor are they literally accurate, but behind every joke remains some truth. The truth in this case is exactly that, we become what we eat, not over night, be through the endless regeneration of the vast majority of the cells within our bodies.

This post does not seek to push any kind of specific diet on anyone, since it is up to each and every person to decide what they put into their bodies, so there won’t be spark lit in the explosive room of veganism, vegetarianism, omnivorism, or the aforementioned cannibalism. What will be brought to light though is that our body takes in everything we put in our mouths and swallow, absorbing what it can or need, and evacuating the rest. But that is common knowledge. What this also means is that the building blocks our bodies get in order to renew the dying cells within ourselves come from whatever source enters our bodies, whether it be sunlight (sun-gazing anyone?), an apple, or a bag of chips. Those nutritious (or not so much) aliment are what the building blocks are made out off, so in a way, if one were to eat only pizza for a long enough time, one would be build out of pizza nutriments exclusively, so you better make sure you get different kinds, and not always pepperoni-mushroom.

This absorption makes sense, and so we can leave the physical level at that. Where things get a little more interesting is when you look at the meat you eat, because it is composed of living cells which store more than what is perceptible to the eye. Just as our body gets scarred physically, so are our emotions registered in the physical part of ourselves, and there is no reason why it would be any different for animals. This becomes relevant when we look at the current meat-production industry, and the quality of life that those animals have. This life is usually filled with pain, disease, sadness, fear, and enormous quantities of stress, which means that all those negative emotions are also registered within their muscles, organs, and fat, i.e. the parts which we enjoy consuming. So we are not only eating the physical meat from the animal in question, but also taking in all the emotions that it has lived beforehand, whether negative or positive, and those emotions could have an impact on us (always depending on one’s sensibility to such phenomena, of course)…and the same goes for the plants we eat too, since it is believed they are sentient as well!!

Last but not least, the intention we have while eating might also be a contributing factor of the benefices we get from what we are ingesting, so it may be interesting to look at the reasons why we want to eat a certain food (chips and junk food vs fruits and the like), whether it be for escape (junk food makes you feel “happy”), nutrition, or tasty pleasure. That is for everyone to see for themselves though, since we are the masters of whatever we may put in our mouths. So I will leave it at this and go get a snack.

Until next time,
Luca